How to Date a Lawyer by Avvo

How to Date a Lawyer
Written by Avvo Staff Moderator

This is straight from http://www.avvo.com/legal-guides/ugc/how-to-date-a-lawyer

But I'm going to add my thoughts since I am in fact dating one of that kind.
My friend Danielle (2nd year law student) sent me this a few moments ago, I just thought it was hilarious & wanted to share it with you all.

Here it goes,

How to Date a Lawyer by Avvo

Want to date a lawyer? You’re not alone. Surveys show lawyers are among the most datable professions, but meeting and having a relationship with one can be a challenge. This ten step (half-serious) guide will explain common pitfalls in lawyer dating and give some simple ways to overcome them.

A relationship with a working lawyer is in fact difficult. How many times have you seen me complain about his work hours? lol TOO MANY!

1. Fish where the fish are

To meet a lawyer, you need to be in a lawyer-rich location. Topping the list is Washington D.C., where around 1 out of every 12 people is a lawyer, right behind New York, which has 1 lawyer for every 127 people. At the very bottom of the list is Guam, which has only 1 lawyer for every 734 people, preceded by Arkansas, which has only 1 lawyer for every 507 people.

Hello...college! The best catches are when they're still in law school...you get to know them before they start making their 6-7 figure salaries. & later on you can pride yourself in making your lawyer who he or she is present day!

2. Go in for the kill

Once you’re in a lawyer-rich environment, you’ll need to go in for the kill. Our survey made it clear that lawyers spend more time in one place than any other: the office. If infiltrating a law office seems impractical or illegal, your next best option is a bar—that is, a bar association event or continuing legal education seminar. Finally, you could frequent bars (where they sell drinks) near courthouses, but exercise caution to avoid alcoholics in legal trouble.

They are in fact in their office at least 10 hours of the day. =/ The best place to meet them would be at a coffee shop outside court houses too. lol

3. Beware the lawyer personality

Once you’ve snagged a lawyer, beware. According to 20-year psychologist, Dr. Fiona Travis, “the same qualities that persuade juries and win cases can also work like acid on marital relations.” Our survey indicated the same, with one lawyer wife telling us that she endures “power trips” and “being spoken to like opposing counsel." Studies also show that lawyers tend to be defensive, argumentative, skeptical, and anti-social. However, the bright side is that you won’t experience these things often because lawyers are rarely at home. As one lawyer said, “Lawyers tend to be type A workaholics and have a hard time balancing work and family.”

I definitely agree with "being spoken to like opposing counsel." Arguing with a lawyer is 1. annoying, 2. tiring. 3. the trick to win is to NEVER BACK DOWN if you know you're right.

They are workaholics, but if you're one too..you'll get along.

4. Only repeat things you hear from credible people

Lawyers are trained to destroy witness credibility on cross examination. That’s why if you ever repeat something you’ve heard, you should volunteer the tipster’s name, education, occupation, and criminal history.

They never believe anything you tell them. They're always SKEPTICAL. It really ticks me off. If I tell Minh, that person is shady, he won't believe me until he himself experiences or witnesses the shadiness. lol. It's almost like they give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It makes sense they do so, especially Minh since he used to practice Criminal Law.

5. Use Latin whenever possible

Lawyers feel warm and fuzzy when they hear Latin. An easy way to use Latin without knowing any is to give your pets Latin names. When you say, “Why, yes, I have a pet! It’s a poodle named Per Stirpes!” any lawyer will turn to putty in your hands.

Honestly...not everyone is that strange. I think I comprehend the meaning behind words better than he does.

6. Make love notes long and confusing

Brevity and clarity make lawyers feel uncomfortable and agitated, much like normal people feel at the DMV. For example, don’t say, “Let’s head back home early for some fun.” Instead say, “Let’s return early to the domicile for some malfeasance.”

I write hate notes or emails that are long and confusing when I'm pissed off at him. Those seem to work 100,000 times better than talking (cause you cannot reason with a lawyer).

7. Don’t be surprised when your lawyer sweetheart nitpicks everything

When it happens, don’t accuse him of splitting hairs. That would be like accusing a dolphin of swimming. Instead, thank him for being both a gentleman and a scholar.

Again..they're always skeptical. But when you know more than them about a topic, RUB IT IN. Minh has no idea when it comes to jewelry jargon.

8. Always cite sources

When in doubt, point to scientific studies, real or imagined. For example, instead of saying you “feel” that fried Twinkies should be illegal, say they’ve been associated with stroke and suicidal ideation. Your lawyer lover may chastise you for sloppy research later, but will respect your appeal to authority.

I always link him to a credible source. For example, we used to argue over credit cards. He thinks the more the better. I took personal finance and we learned it's most logical and rewarding to just own 2 credit cards. He never believed me so I proved it via facts.

9. Never speak of beliefs not backed by empirical evidence

For example, if you believe in the healing power of magnets, keep it to yourself. Instead, loudly and passionately accuse wait staff and small children of non sequiturs. Throw in a disparaging comment about the American education system for extra points.

I have no idea what the hell #9 is talking about lol

10. Remember, it can all be very worth it

Lawyers, despite their posturing and sometimes-aggressive demeanor, are really very sweet at heart. As one lawyer put it, “I am looking for honesty, loyalty, a good listener, someone who can be confident, a companion and my best friend.” With a little training, persistence and patience, a lawyer can be the love of your life.

So far, I've witness that the lawyers I know are pretty damn loyal people.

They are SUPER CONFIDENT. I cannot piss off my bf by insulting him. It just doesn't work. I've tried. They just think they're the shit sometimes, but I keep him in check. If he ever "power trips" around me, I just put him in his place. Everyone can be put in their place, just drag out their dirty laundry and rub it in their face. Or point out their flaws, lol

Overall, fun article! Is anyone dating a doctor? I'd love to get insight! I have a doctor to be friend, and he seems like the most wonderful boyfriend to his girlfriend. : )

Anyone dating a lawyer? doctor? engineer? artist? entrepreneur? How are your relationships?

Dating a lawyer has its ups & downs.
But I can tell you this, my parents loved him from day one.